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Pictures = Porno, Words = Erotica

April 25, 2012

A few weeks back, I saw the most disturbing assumption blathered out in a discussion. The person said that, if the book had pictures (in reference to manga) and was erotic, then it was porn. If the book had no pictures, then it was erotic romance or erotica. Pictures, to this poster and those who agreed with him, meant the work was instantaneously pornography.

People are free to think whatever they like, but this simple minded definition was ridiculous. Because erotic manga exist, it was porn and deserved Amazon’s ill treatment. I highly disagree. I’ve been reading manga since I was fifteen. Erotic manga came on my radar when I was nineteen. I never thought of it as porn. Porn, to me, was pictures or words or video specifically designed for me to watch while I had sex or masturbated. Just like my romance novels, manga didn’t serve that purpose to me, and to see someone reduce it to that just… rubbed at me.

And not in the good way.

Art doesn’t exist in such black and white terms. Pictures do not equal pornography. Of course, in my mind, pornography is in the eye of the beholder. I also don’t know why people are so quick to distance themselves from pornography. There’s nothing shameful about. Sex is not shameful. Arousal is not shameful. What is shameful are those would foist their own issues onto the rest of the world. I watch porn. I like it for getting off quickly and easily. It’s my own personal time. Me and the gay boys on the screen. There’s nothing wrong about that.

I have no illusions that 99% of the world masturbates. I don’t pretend that everyone just closes their eyes and thinks of their ideal partner when they do it, either. If there’s one thing my mother gave me, it’s a lack of shame in sexuality and arousal. From a very early age, sex and sensuality were openly discussed and never made secret or shameful. For half my life, I did believe that pictures equaled porn, but as an adult who has been exposed to so much, that definition changed.

So, the bulk of this post is simply this: nothing is simple. Nothing is black and white. Your issues aren’t my issues. Your hang ups aren’t my hang ups. Your kink isn’t necessarily my kink. 😉 And I refuse to be ashamed of the things I enjoy in my intimate life, and I highly encourage the rest of you to think similarly. Embrace who you are, what gets you off, and don’t apologize for it.

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  1. Carole-Ann permalink
    April 25, 2012 1:30 pm

    Gah, I hate people who make an over-reaching statement without really thinking about it! And, I agree, accept who you are and “bah-sucks” to everyone else.

    I’ve never read erotic manga nor watched videos, but I’ve seen loads of pics – which in some instances made me go “ungh” or “WTH” – but I accept “each to his own” and I have no quibble with that. Just because I don’t like something, doesn’t mean no-one else shouldn’t like it either! BUT, I refuse to impose my likes/dislikes on other peeps.

    Freedom of choice, and all that – we’re all human AND different and thank God for that!

    Many thanks SL for such a sensible post!

    Carole-Ann

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